Wait, what did I just write? That’s one of the sentences on my “Don’t agree with” list. It’s one of the top three. I’ll tell you more about the other ones but this one kind of makes me smirk every time I read it. It’s a lie. And here’s why.
I was raised believing, that if you wait long enough, your dreams will come true. Your dream education will come, your dream job will come and your prince charming will come. Hah, what a lie…
Don’t get me wrong, every thing comes, sooner or later, but not because you wait for it. All of them come, because you work for it. PERIOD.
Our lives are not fairy tales (if your life is, i bow to you), it’s a constant struggle. Mostly with our own ego. But if you really want something, you’ve got to work for it not wait for it. You’ve got to put all you have into it, and results will come. I mean, I haven’t met a single person in the world who said aaaaaaw, i sat at home and prince charming knocked on my door (if your prince charming is a postman or a delivery guy, you got lucky and that doesn’t count), nor have I heard anyone say that their dream job came looking for them at home.
The question that always comes to mind is, why the hell wait for something when you can have or do it now? The only thing stopping you is YOU. You are the one that decides what happens to your life. Not the circumstances you were born into, not the school you went to, everything is based on your decisions.
Every single thing about your life depends on you. You’re the creator of it and nothing else matters. By this I mean that all of your life is based on your decisions and choices. We are so used to blaming others for our failures that we forget that everything begins with us. And why do we do it? Because it’s easier. It’s easier to say it’s your fault than admitting it is our own.
Living a life full of regret and guilt is devastating, that’s why we make sure it’s always someone else’s fault. And you know exactly what I’m talking about. The big question now is, how can I solve this?
Simple. Take action.
Taking action is something that our brain wants us not to do. This means, that you have to get out of your comfortable sofa and actually DO something. Whether it’s exercising for 15 minutes ’till you drop dead because of the lack of air, or picking up the phone and apologizing to someone, there has to be some kind of action. And as I’ve stated before, you have about 5 seconds to do it.
The next time you get a “crazy” idea in your head, just do it. Want to skydive? Pick up the phone and dial that number you found a while ago on the internet, call them, meet them and jump. Want to make amends with your family? Pick up the phone, call your parents and tell them that you love them. When’s the last time you did that anyway?
When you’ll be 70, wrinkly and grey, what will you be thinking about? Are you gonna laugh at your own stories and be happy about all the crazy things you’ve done, or are you gonna be a grumpy cat and be bitter and regretful? Nobody likes grumpy people, you don’t either. But I assure you, you will become one, if you don’t start taking action.
I used to be the one, who waits. I really believed it the “All good things come to those who wait” sentence. It was kind of my “thing”. In the end, I started to use it for an excuse for not doing anything. And then one day I got asked what I’m doing to make this better/different. And the only thing I came up with was waiting.
I stopped waiting for the world to give me what I wanted; I started giving it to myself. Byron Katie
Darn, I was waiting for a big part of my life for something to change, when I realized that nothing’s gonna change if I’m not gonna change. And I did. The how and why I already explained. And the what is obvious – I changed me!
It’s an ongoing process, that I’ll doubt will ever end. I change on a daily basis. Today I’m stronger than I was yesterday, I know things I didn’t a week ago, and am definitely more positive about the future. Because of my actions and not waiting, I now am where I am and have what I have.
I would like everyone to make a promise to themselves and it goes like this: “From today on, I will be a doer.” Sounds OK? Great. Now go, do things. Today’s the first day of the rest of your life, what are you waiting for?
Oh and btw, take pictures, lots of them. That’s how you can relive the excitement and get back into action every time your brain starts to trick you again.
Have a great week everyone,